Have you ever felt that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach when another of your friends blinds you with her 10 carat diamond ring as she hands you her gold and ivory embossed wedding invitation?
It's OK. We all have.
But how do you stay calm, sane and positive when you suddenly realise that you are the last singleton of your group?
1. Acknowledge and embrace how you are feeling. Say it out loud to a trusted friend, write it in your diary (or email it to me).
Say it, say that you feel panicked, afraid, jealous, angry, outraged, whatever it is. Once you have said it you can then work through it.
Don't suppress it, it will only come back to haunt you in some unhealthy way.
2. Remember the hadith: “None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.”
Granted it's not always easy but think about your own wedding one day in sha Allah. You would want your friends to be happy for you. Who knows, maybe right now your friend is feeling a little guilty that it's her and not you getting married.
She needs a supportive friend more than ever right now.
3. Treat yourself!
Ok this one is a bit superficial but do it!
Buy that expensive coffee and cake, watch the film you love, have a hot bubbly bath, go to your favourite workout class.
Whatever cheers you up, indulge and use it to remind yourself how deserving, valued and amazing you are whatever your marital status
Remember we are only human. Yes we are Muslim but we are by no means perfect. You have a heart and a soul and, as women, Allah has blessed us with the ability to feel a range and depth of emotions. It's how we deal with them that counts.
When we feel these feelings of envy then guilt then sadness they are coming from a place of fear not spite. In order to deal with things like setbacks, other peoples’ weddings and breakups and still remain hopeful takes courage and know how. Click the button below to find out more about my top strategies for dealing with such feelings so they never block you from marriage again…